tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-159296859212520052.post4740441465721428744..comments2023-09-21T00:08:21.827+10:00Comments on Heidi and Seek and Ethical Fashion: defeatHayley Sarahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05021662958659612383noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-159296859212520052.post-13323503469606715112009-10-25T17:23:50.191+11:002009-10-25T17:23:50.191+11:00wow, I have been feeling that way for a while now ...wow, I have been feeling that way for a while now too, and I find it hard to blog when I feel I have nothing amazingly positive to say. Really loved your post, I'll be thinking of the same questions too..<br />x Pepperpepperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00367937360473180606noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-159296859212520052.post-53826038760595400922009-10-23T03:32:09.200+11:002009-10-23T03:32:09.200+11:00I know exactly how you feel!!! Hi, my name is Mich...I know exactly how you feel!!! Hi, my name is Michelle, I'm new to your blog (I found you through etsy), and honestly my first impression was that you have an amazing talent and passion for what you do. You have no idea how good it is to find people that feel the same way you do sometimes and that can understand what we go through wnen we have those i'd like to call "dry spells".<br />All I can say is: They do pass, you are not lazy, Don't listen to people that say you are (they are probably jealous of you)and remain true to yourself, take time to relax and gain energy and surround yourself with people that are strong and that inspire you. <br />Believe me!! if you do that you are going to be just great.<br />P.S. I would probably be one of the first to buy your book... I would sooOO love to learn how to sew.Michelle Michelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10417435435556935272noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-159296859212520052.post-20911899908385420072009-10-22T21:42:10.321+11:002009-10-22T21:42:10.321+11:00JulieG - That's a really great idea. Bird by B...JulieG - That's a really great idea. Bird by Bird is a book I've been meaning to get my hands on for a while! <br /><br />mummalu - Oh, hello! I'm so flattered that you checked out my wares while you were in Melbourne. The last size 16 in incube8r would have sold the week before you came in, I feel a bit terrible that I didn't restock them sooner! Come Christmas I'll definitely keep all sizes stocked at all times, though.<br /><br />Katie - Thanks for the encouragement! The left hand/right hand writing technique sounds utterly fascinating, I will have to try it. If you came up with it yourself I'm totally in awe! <br /><br />I know what you mean about being nice to yourself - learning that really really helped.<br /><br />Hugs all round to everyone going through this.Hayley Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05021662958659612383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-159296859212520052.post-2036570767744507662009-10-22T03:29:35.331+11:002009-10-22T03:29:35.331+11:00ok, i TOTALLY relate to this. as does my boyfriend...ok, i TOTALLY relate to this. as does my boyfriend. we both have this issue. and it's not laziness...it's a slew of other things. for me i think it's a fear of not being good enough so why even try because i'm sure no one is going to buy anything so what's the point? and for that, i have found that self reflection is good...but to take it a step further and be your own best friend, number 1 fan, life coach, etc... i have found that writing to myself helps and this is going to sound really weird and cheeesy, but it HELPS.... i do right hand/left hand writing.... with your non dominant hand, write as the part of you that is having a hard time. then imagine the most amazing, supportive, knowledgeable, confident, caring, etc etc person. (we all have it inside of us) and with your dominant hand, write from that part of you. i have found myself to be very supportive and helpful when i go to myself for help. it gets you out of the bullying yourself thing and more into supporting yourself and giving yourself a break while also coming up with some practical solutions. hang in there....there are a lot of us feeling the very same thing!myownlittleuniversehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15638375723138345498noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-159296859212520052.post-4829399620750901282009-10-20T22:37:33.095+11:002009-10-20T22:37:33.095+11:00Hi, just wanted to let you know that I had the opp...Hi, just wanted to let you know that I had the opportunity to visit Melbourne last week and headed straight for Incub8r so I could check out your stuff IRL (in real life)! It was so great to see everything up close, you have an amazing eye for detail. The colours are brilliant. I was so set on buying myself something from your range but I am now on the larger side of the size 14 and didn't feel quite comfortable in anything that I tried on. But don't take offence to that as I am not feeling overly happy in any clothes I put on at the moment! We are planning another visit over Christmas time so hopefully I can have another go then! Thanks for your blog, it's genuinely inspiring!Lucyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11053092763155544615noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-159296859212520052.post-54854873416957063452009-10-20T16:34:22.512+11:002009-10-20T16:34:22.512+11:00I know what you mean! One thing that helped me was...I know what you mean! One thing that helped me was an idea from Anne Lamont's Bird by Bird (not a how-to, more of a story about her own process) about allowing myself to make a 'shitty first draft' of whatever I'm working on, every single time I sit down to make things. It shuts my internal critic up for a while :)Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08661414707264288562noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-159296859212520052.post-61347994115422638172009-10-20T11:38:19.557+11:002009-10-20T11:38:19.557+11:00R - I definitely agree about self-reflection. I al...R - I definitely agree about self-reflection. I always feel better after writing down my thoughts, because I can't seem to delve into them very much just thinking about them.<br /><br />Carolyn - Thanks for your comment. Maybe one of the problems is that there are so many techniques out there that just don't work for me, so trying them just ends in what I percieve as failure.<br /><br />I'm happy and optimistic. Just trying to work through this and find solutions instead of worrying about it.<br /><br />Penny - I was thinking about getting Havi's book about procrastination.. Then I thought that I'd probably procrastinate reading it and decided to keep my $100. But I really like her way of writing and her point of view. I'm checking out her blog for posts on procrastination now, thanks.<br /><br />Gina - I might look into cognitive behaviour therapy, thank you.<br /><br />I guess, on the surface, I don't think of myself as lazy but it is one of those sore spots of mine. Unless I analyse myself like I did before writing this post, I don't really realise that this negative self-talk is going on in the background when I procrastinate - I'm just faced with something and I really really want to escape the pressure.<br /><br />I really appreciate your words. Sometimes I forget how much I'm taking on at the moment.Hayley Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05021662958659612383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-159296859212520052.post-60760520304924419382009-10-20T09:34:42.486+11:002009-10-20T09:34:42.486+11:00Oh, I have to second Carolyn and suggest a bit of ...Oh, I have to second Carolyn and suggest a bit of cognitive behavioural therapy. I found a book called 'Change Your Thinking' helpful (but not for your particular issues...). Procrastination is so much the flip side of being a perfectionist. I think it must be hard to be trying to grow a business whilst still maintaining your creativity and a love for what you do. I also think it's great that you post.<br />Oh and another thing. I for one don't understand how you could consider yourself lazy, or think others do. You have a toddler. You seem to do a million other things. Your idea of what should be possible is very ambitious... not necessarily a bad thing but it is if it gets out of hand.Ginahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06422492795264972573noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-159296859212520052.post-3679617978381835122009-10-20T08:04:56.650+11:002009-10-20T08:04:56.650+11:00I found something on procrastination on thefluents...I found something on procrastination on thefluentself blog, which was very helpful in figuring out why I procrastinate...<br /><br />I have like 7 systems that all need to be working. Not procrastinating, time management, positive thinking, to-do list, something to listen to, not cold feet... I know there's some more. <br /><br />Anyway, good luck. Those t-shirts are cute. Just 1 step at a time though!Pennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12342156788487840179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-159296859212520052.post-9512379900960142142009-10-19T23:55:24.728+11:002009-10-19T23:55:24.728+11:00Ahh the internal critic. Very common and CAN be ma...Ahh the internal critic. Very common and CAN be managed. Rest assured, *pat pat*. Look up some cognitive behavioural therapy if you're desperate.<br /><br />I think what u said is right; a lot of times, it's just better to be in the moment. Just you and the sewing machine. Maybe hum to yourself instead of listening to the radio. Talk to yourself. "<br /><br />Keep reminding yourself that the pressure you give yourself does not work. A reward system may also help.<br /><br />There is light at the end of the tunnel! =) Be happy.Carolynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05542958029037410993noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-159296859212520052.post-86839076300596283252009-10-19T23:40:00.452+11:002009-10-19T23:40:00.452+11:00That's exactly why I have my blog - to documen...That's exactly why I have my blog - to document my thoughts and progress, and remind me why I want to write and create in the first place :) Self-reflection is such an underestimated tool!<br /><br />--xo.R.https://www.blogger.com/profile/01660596412063261855noreply@blogger.com